The Types Of Introverts & How They Express Love, According To Experts

Social Introverts: You likely know this type of introvert, because they will accept an invitation with no intention of actually showing up. They do like to be social, but primarily in tiny, intimate gatherings.Social introverts enjoy a solo date or vacation, requiring time alone to recharge, even when in a relationship. They’re generally comfortable communicating their feelings, too.Thinking Introverts: As the name suggests, thinking introverts are highly introspective. They aren’t very reactive, and oftentimes pause to think through their words before responding. This type of introvert can be in their head so much that they don’t openly express love often—but it’s important not to take their silence as complacency. Anxious Introverts: This type of introvert most closely represents the archetype people think of when imagining an introvert. Anxious introverts typically appear mildly nervous in most situations.Some may interpret this behavior as avoidant or rude, but it really boils down to discomfort. While anxious introverts have a tendency to over-invest in relationships, they can also be hesitant to communicate their feelings.Restrained Introverts: These people are measured, careful, and won’t dive into anything before they’re ready. They may have a guard up until they get to know you and feel comfortable around you. Restrained introverts move at a slow, methodical pace in dating. That said, they can be some of the most passionate, open people once they get comfortable—if you’re patient enough.

Introverts often take their time when opening up to people, so give them grace and be patient.While you may love to send a triple text, an introvert may become overwhelmed by lots of messages.Understand that when an introvert wants to be alone, do not take it personally. It has nothing to do with you. They just need to recharge.Don’t be surprised if even though they want time alone, they’re bad at asking for it because they feel guilty. Be conscious about giving them alone time even when they don’t ask.Notice that if they’re getting testy and irritable, you likely need to give them some space.Know that they may have a hard time making the first move, so you may have to do so yourself.Plan dates at home sometimes. For example, cook together or do a movie night.Since introverts tend to have their energy drained easily, know that if they’re choosing to spend time with you repeatedly, they really like you. While they may not always bring up bigger or deeper conversations out of nervousness, they’re typically open to those conversations if you initiate them or bring things up.Don’t be surprised if they want to schedule a phone call or video call before wanting to meet you in real life. Some introverts will want to test the waters before taking out the time and energy to meet you in person.Introverts are highly curious people, so they’re great people to open up to if you choose a quiet space to do so one-on-one. Know that they oftentimes feel misunderstood as awkward or shy people, so they will appreciate you being curious and patient enough to peel back their layers.Figure out the type of introvert you are dating so you can learn a bit more about who they are and how they express love.While everyone appreciates loyalty and consistency, introverts value it even more.Dating an introvert is similar to dating anyone else—it’s important to get to know each other on a deeper level and find a personality match, no matter who you are.

Know that an introvert will open up more easily when they are in a place in which they’re comfortable. This will likely be a quieter place or in their own home, but you can also think about what their hobbies and interests are.Do they like hiking? Take them to the great outdoors to help put them at ease.Anderson notes that introverts can find initiating conversation challenging. Don’t be afraid to start a conversation with them and guide them through it, because chances are that they’re open to talking if someone else starts.Some introverts seek reassurance and validation, says DeAlto. For that reason, it can be a good idea to start a conversation with your partner by reminding them that you are there to listen and that you value what they have to say.