An Interbeing Meditation for Connection and Understanding

Summary

Through the practice of interbeing meditation, we explore our inherent connection to the whole world. Interbeing is one word for our basic interconnectedness and interdependence as living beings. When we consider both our own needs and the needs of other people, we can be more understanding and kind, even during difficult interactions.

If you’ve faced challenging or polarizing conversations lately, you likely know how difficult it can be to connect and cooperate with the person on the other side of that interaction.

In today’s guided interbeing meditation, Dr. Shalini Bahl invites us to explore our innate interconnectedness by recognizing our needs and those of others, so that we can be empowered to work together in new and creative ways that benefit all involved.

An Interbeing Meditation for Connection and Understanding

Read and practice the guided meditation script below, pausing after each paragraph. Or listen to the audio practice.

Welcome to Interbeing, a guided practice for connection and understanding. Zen master and peace activist Thich Nhat Hanh coined the word interbeing to describe a basic interconnectedness and interdependence as living beings. This practice invites us to explore this interconnectedness, especially when facing challenging conversations or polarizing situations. By recognizing our needs and those of others, we can foster greater understanding. This compassionate awareness can empower us to work together in new and creative ways that benefit all involved.  Let’s begin by coming to a comfortable sitting posture that allows you to be alert and relaxed. Gently close your eyes, or simply soften your gaze. Rest your awareness on the breath moving in and out of your body, naturally and effortlessly. Invite your mind to be here with your breath and body. Feel the spaciousness in your chest with each inhale and exhale.  Now picture a vast open sky filled with white fluffy clouds. See these clouds gathering to become larger and darker, heavy with life-giving rain. Feel the cool drops falling, sinking deep into the earth below. Sense the trees drinking deeply, their roots reaching deep down into the earth and the branches lifting towards the sky.  Think of these trees, well nourished by the rain water, by this earth, offering their fibers to be transformed into the very paper we use in our everyday lives. Just as this rain nourishes the earth and the earth nourishes the trees, so too are we nourished by this web of life around us. Each breath we take connects us to the trees, the rain, the earth, and all living beings.  Take a few moments to connect with this sense of awe and wonder in whatever way feels most authentic to you. Sense this interconnectedness with this web of life and all beings.  In this spirit of interbeing, bring to mind someone you are or will be interacting with—at home, work, or in your community—for whom you want to feel compassion. This could be someone you want to connect with more deeply as someone you’re having a conflict with.  Once you have the person and this interaction in mind, return to your present moment. Experience the breath moving in and out of your body. If your mind feels especially active today, place one hand on your chest and one hand on your belly as you feel the rising and falling of your body under the gentle touch of your hands.  Every time your mind wanders away, which it will, bring it back with kindness to your breath moving in and out of your body. Once your mind is stabilized, listen within to your needs in this interaction. Quietly ask yourself, What are my needs in this interaction? Stay here with kindness without forcing an answer. Listen then with patience. What would you like to get from this interaction? What are your needs? What are your intentions? What would you like to see happen?  Don’t go with the first response. Wait. Listen. Notice any kind of rushing judgments or fears. About what you may discover, making space for it all. Allow yourself to see, to feel whatever is your experience.   Feel free to pause this recording and journal or if you need a little more time. Once you feel ready, quietly ask yourself the following: What are the other person’s needs? Again, no need to search for answers. Just make room in your mind and your heart to listen within.  What is coming up for you as you make room for the other person’s perspectives? Their lived experiences? What might be going on for the other person, and what are their needs? If possible, see that person, the whole person beyond the situation. The ways in which they, too, care about the things that you care about. The ways that they, too, have suffered, just like you have in your life.  You’re not assuming you know everything. You’re just trusting yourself to know what you need to know. All we’re doing is making room, with the intention to see this other person.  When you find yourself overly distracted, or getting into a thinking mode, return to your breath. Your breath is an anchor to your natural place of connection with your body, yourself, and others. From this place of connection, open your mind to listen to the other person’s needs.  Again, if you like, you can pause this recording to do some journaling. Even the subtlest of shifts in your perspective can have a big impact on how you show up.  Based on your reflection today, how might you show up for yourself and the other person? Take some time to create an intention for showing up with understanding and kindness. And before you begin your interaction with that person, remember to return to your contemplation of interbeing, your intentions, and trusting your natural goodness. May this interbeing meditation help us navigate challenging interactions with grace, compassion, and wisdom. May our practice together benefit us and all beings. 

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