How To Write A Heartfelt Thank You Note & Why You Should Do It More Often
When is the last time you sent a heartfelt thank you note?
August 20, 2022 — 11:27 AM
Saying thank you when someone has done you a good turn is not a lost art in the 21st century. The words “thank you” are still two of the most powerful words we can use to convey appreciation to another person, and sending an appreciation message remains one of the best ways to truly let someone know you are grateful for what they have done for you.
But sometimes, beyond just the “thank you,” it is hard to find the right words to use in an appreciation message. Here’s some expert advise on creative ways to send appreciation messages in different situations and for different recipients.
Writing an appreciation message.
An appreciation message can be any expression of gratitude or thanks, from a simple note sent by email to an ornate card with a handwritten letter delivered in the mail. As family strategist and coach Sonya Belleti, LCSW, explains, people often send appreciation messages after receiving a gift, to thank someone for showing up for them (such as to a wedding or funeral), or to help stand out after a job interview.
“An appreciation message is one way to let someone know how much you appreciate them for what they have done for you,” licensed clinical social worker and health coach Sarah Brown, LCSW, tells mbg. “It is so important to show appreciation to others, and sometimes giving an appreciation message can go a long way.”
Brown notes that appreciation messages can be meaningful to send out to truly anyone who has impacted you personally: “Think, hair stylist, childcare worker, personal trainer, coach, mentor, etc. They can also be used for colleagues and for your team if you are in a leadership role in a work setting.”
The great thing about writing appreciation messages, Belleti adds, is that they benefit the giver as much as the receiver. “When we are writing a true heartfelt appreciation message, we tap into gratitude, which is always great for lifting our spirits as well as the recipient,” she explains. “Appreciation messages don’t always need to be big gestures to be impactful. Expressing gratitude to someone makes a person feel seen and affirms that their efforts were noticed and appreciated.”
“The benefit of living in the digital age is, where with only a few keystrokes and the tap of a button, we can immediately reach out to everyone we want to thank,” says Belleti. “The method of outreach depends on your relationship with the recipient.”
Some options to consider:
Examples of appreciation messages.
Below, our expert share examples of great appreciation messages. “The best appreciation messages are personalized,” Belleti notes, so make sure to customize your message to the specific person you’re writing to and your specific relationship.
Appreciation messages for a friend.
Friends are important people in our lives, so it is important to let them know what they mean to us and to show gratitude and appreciation for the things they do for us. “The key to writing appreciation to friends is to be specific about what you are grateful for,” Belleti says.
Some examples:
Appreciation messages for a family member.
Many times, and in many cases, we expect and assume our family will do things for us when we need them to and that they will show up for us. Because of this, it is even more important that we show gratitude to them, so they don’t feel taken for granted.
Some examples:
Professional appreciation messages for a boss or colleague.
Sending appreciation messages to a boss or colleague can be a little tricky because it is important to strike the right tone. However, a well written appreciation message can go a long way toward building positive relationships with your co-workers. Writing an appreciation message is also an opportunity to give colleagues credit for their contributions and to receive deserved recognition.
Some examples:
Professional appreciation messages to send your team.
Working as a team is an essential part of the modern-day workplace. Typically, you collaborate intensively with the team, and your success or failure rest on the individual contributions of your team members. Therefore, it is important to recognize the contributions of team members, so they know their work is seen and appreciated.
Appreciation messages for a teacher.
Teachers are some of the most hard working and dedicated professionals in the workplace. Unfortunately, they are often one of the most overlooked in terms receiving recognition and praise for their contributions. Sending an appreciation message or thank you can go a long way towards letting them know you appreciate their work and commitment. When writing an appreciation message for a teacher or educator, Belleti advises, “it is great to share a specific fond memory of highlight of something that was impactful during the school year.”
Some examples:
People can tell when they’re receiving a routine thank you note sent simply for social graces, Belleti notes. So, if you’re going to send a note, she recommends really focusing on trying to be specific in your message and really gear it toward each individual.
“Whatever the occasion is, be specific, and speak from the heart,” she says. “It is important to keep in mind when writing an appreciation message what actions the other person took that you are grateful for and the impact those actions had on you to inspire an appreciation message.”
2. Try to send your appreciation message promptly.
“The best timeline to send an appreciation message is within 2-4 weeks after an event,” says Belleti. “However, it is important to remember that appreciation is not limited by time, so a heartfelt thank you sent later is always appreciated.”
Brown concurs—in general, it’s never too late to say thank you and show appreciation.
3. You don’t need to write a novel.
A little goes a long way, says Brown. While she recommends being genuine and speaking from the heart, sometimes a succinct and meaningful note is just as impactful as a long-winded one. The old saying is true, she notes: It’s the thought that counts.
4. Validate the recipient.
“In general, an appreciation message is validating to the recipient,” says Belleti. “It says, ‘I see you, and your actions mattered.’”
Showing gratitude to someone who has done something for you not only improves the well-being of the recipient but also that of the sender. Practicing gratitude daily has been proven to have positive psychological, social, and emotional benefits. It helps build thriving and healthy people and societies and improves the quality of one’s life.
“When we show appreciation for the small and big things, we are all better for it,” says Belleti. “Who doesn’t want to know that their actions or words had meaning, and who doesn’t want to know they have people who support them? Appreciation opens our heart and is a win-win for everyone involved.”
The next time you have a free moment, consider using it to practice gratitude by writing someone special a note of appreciation. You’ll probably make their day.
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