How To Ground Yourself When You Feel Uncomfortable In Your Body

A healthy relationship with your body begins by being comfortable with your physicality.

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Feb 1, 2023 - 21:03

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How To Ground Yourself When You Feel Uncomfortable In Your Body

Spiritual Icon & Best-Selling Author

By Deepak Chopra

Spiritual Icon & Best-Selling Author

Deepak Chopra, M.D., FACP, founder of The Chopra Foundation and co-founder of The Chopra Center for Wellbeing and Jiyo.com, is a world-renowned pioneer in integrative medicine and personal transformation.

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February 1, 2023

If animals could talk, we don’t know what they’d say, but we can be certain about what they wouldn’t say: “I hate my body.” Hating your body is a uniquely human response and an unnatural one. Royal Yoga holds that a healthy relationship with your body begins by being comfortable with your physicality. The modern term for this is being grounded. We say that a person is grounded if they are sensible, realistic, reliable, and not given to flights of fancy. Those are good traits, but asana is about being grounded in yourself, which occurs only as your awareness deepens.

It is peculiar to stand back and discover just how much judgment has been leveled against physicality itself, which the body symbolizes. Long-held religious beliefs denigrate the physical for pulling us down from the heights of the spiritual. Physicality reminds us of our low, knuckle-dragging primate forebears. To be physical is to be brutish; to be spiritual is divine.

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Yet as Yoga sees it, one flow of consciousness supports life in every dimension. There is no reason to denigrate the physical once you realize how much wisdom (vidya) is expressed in every cell, the wisdom of life as a whole. Yoga takes us beyond the deceptive look of the body—solid, material, fixed in time and space—to reality. We aren’t embodied in a body; we are embodied in awareness.

What follows are the qualities that represent being fully grounded.

You are grounded when:

Being embodied brings you joyYou understand the deep wisdom of your bodyYou feel attuned to natureYou cherish the Earth for creating earthly existenceYou feel unembarrassed by basic bodily functionsYou appreciate other people's earthinessYou feel stable and steady during periods of changeYou experience equanimity in the fact of aging and dyingYour sensual and sexual life is gratifying, without prudery or shame

When you watch little children romping in the mud or running around the house unencumbered, how does your response reflect on you? What we call the innocence of childhood exists, yes, but it is more appropriately called being grounded. Children feel no impulse, unless they are mistreated, to be disembodied. They have no need to renounce or escape their physical nature.

This naturally grounded state changes as soon as the mind intervenes to create certain attitudes that drive us to become disembodied—not like ghosts but as creatures who judge against our physicality.

You become disembodied when

You don’t feel comfortable inside your own skinYour body arouses in you distaste or disgustYou live in your headYou always choose indoor distractions over going out into natureYou hold negative views of the human body. These may be religious (seeing the body as sinful) or based on personal aversion (for example, being repelled by the body’s messier functions)You remember physical experiences that led to humiliation, guilt, or shamePhysical beauty or ugliness becomes a fixationYou have poor body image because you are overweight, aging, or subject to social attitudes about physical perfection and desirabilityYou don’t feel physically lovable or desirableYou neglect to keep your body clean, well cared for, and activeYou think that earthy people are stupid or crude

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When we list all the ways we put down our bodies, it becomes evident that we live in a disembodied age to a shocking degree. Mass media overloads us with fantasies of a perfect body that never ages while robbing us of the real blessing of being embodied. The embodied state allows us to feel the physical side of bliss-consciousness, which is a vibrant sense of aliveness as we move through our day.

How to ground yourself

Begin by silently repeating today’s theme:

I rest comfortably in my body.

Every step you take to welcome your own physicality is a step into the light. Look at the two lists above that outline the qualities of being grounded versus the qualities of being disembodied. Pause to reflect on how you can adopt more grounded beliefs and turn them into enjoyable actions, like walking in nature, participating in a sport, taking part in forms of physical recreation, or going for a massage.

As you engage in this activity, no matter how simple it is—you might just lie spread-eagle on the warm ground in summer or (believe it or not) hug a tree—reflect on how blessed you are to be embodied. Bring a positive feeling toward your body whenever you can. Drop the casual habit of disparaging your body. Through these steady steps of becoming more grounded, you are removing another layer of obstacles between you and your true self.

Adapted from LIVING IN THE LIGHT copyright © 2023 by Deepak Chopra. Used by permission of Harmony Books, an imprint of Random House, a division of Penguin Random House LLC, New York. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

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